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The rich and the poor… there’s been a great divide between these two that is as old as history itself. And although, in the US, self-described middle- and lower-class Americans say they admire people who get rich by working hard, accomplishing their American dream, it’s when they’re at the top that it starts bothering others.
A Pew Research study found that nearly six in ten survey respondents say the rich pay too little in taxes. And this is the tip of the iceberg. So since we’re not diving deep underneath it, we’re taking a look at one very telling thread.
“What small thing screams 'I’m rich'?” someone posted on r/AskReddit, sparking more than 5k comments with eye-opening responses. Let’s see what people had to say below.
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We chat for like an hour, then it’s time to board. His section is called first and he sees that I didn’t get up to board with him. He walks back over, asks to see my ticket. I show him, he gently shakes his head “no” and smiles while he signals me to follow him to the gate. We get to the gate agent, he says “this is my friend throwaway, is the seat next to me open?” “Excellent, I’d like him to have that seat please.” Hands her a black credit card and next thing I know I’m sitting in first class instead of coach. I told him that was very nice of him, but he didn’t need to spend that kind of money (if I remember right it was like $800) just so I could sit by him. He explained that that “kind of money” literally meant nothing to him, he was enjoying our conversation and wanted it to continue. It was the most surreal feeling ever. So I sat in first class, enjoying all the perks that brings, and talked to this guy about life for the next three hours. Turns out he owned several stamping companies that all had government supply contracts and he had accumulated far more than $800 while we had been sitting in the airport talking, let alone the length of the flight. When we landed he explained that most people just fall all over themselves trying to suck up to him once they know who he is, but I just talked to him like he was a normal human being and I reminded him of his grown sons from when they were teenagers. He thanked me for the conversation, I thanked him for the great seat and we went our separate ways. That guy had money, and he knew what has actual value. I was 17, flying home from my sister’s house and I struck up a conversation with this well dressed businessman. (My mother was a seamstress and had taught me about how to “read” people’s clothes) Dude was super cool super polite. Genuinely just wanted to chat about whatever.
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Nice that a conversation with a polite and interesting 17 year old had value to him.
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I know a man who's the kind of rich where it took him only a day or two to convert more than a million dollars to cash (not, like, physical cash, but the liquid asset) to buy one of his kids a house. He drives a rather beat-up old Subaru, when he's not riding his bicycle instead. He wears jeans and polo shirts. His watch is a $200 digital watch - wouldn't bother wearing a fancy expensive analogue watch, all they do is tell the time, what's the point? He's lived in the same house for 50ish years. The only real tell is the air of total chill he has. He's not worried about much. Money insulates you from really a lot of stress. Sometimes? Nothing.
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He has money, money doesn't own him. Great.
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Working at a luxury resort, one thing I’ve noticed is that the people who want to give the air of being very wealthy will have lots of designer patterns on their clothes and accessories, like Louis Vuitton print, but almost all of the truly ridiculously wealthy people will basically wear nondescript leisure wear and really plain looking clothes (like plain jeans and tees with no logos).
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An acquaintance of mine has a ridiculous amount of money but his clothes are low key and no logo. I love that.
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Bored Panda reached out to the author of the thread, u/_--__-__---, who posed the question “What small thing screams 'I’m rich'?” on AskReddit. The Redditor said that they were thinking of something interesting to ask people on the subreddit while browsing through some past questions. “One idea that stood out was 'What screams “I’m rich”?' so I decided to narrow it down a little bit so that the answers would be less obvious,” they told us. ADVERTIsem*nT “For me, a small thing that screams 'I’m rich' is not caring about the prices of things,” the Redditor said and continued: “For example, randomly paying for a group of friends’ dinners, or just casually sliding the credit card to the cashier without much thought about the price of what they’re buying.”
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They spend money if it saves you time. Time is more valuable than money.
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I guess it just depends on what you have more of or consider more valuable. When I was a student I had plenty of time and no money so I was willing to spend the time doing something. Now that balance has shifted and I will pay for expedience and I am certainly not rich.
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Rolexes are how rich people or not even rich but “had-a-good-year” show off wealth to poor people. A truly wealthy person will have a Patek or AP Royal Oak or a Mueller, and not necessarily even a flashy one. An expensive watch that isn’t a Rolex.
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And it‘s not even looking nice. (In my opinion.☺️)
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I work with some people that pull in 20k+ a month. We had one come in mid March and said I don’t think I’ve been paid since December.” Sure enough two months didn’t pay out for some reason. He wasn’t even mad and just kind of mentioned it like he was talking about the weather. If I miss A paycheck I’d notice on payday. Not noticing you haven’t been paid in two months.
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Years ago I worked for a charity where we received monthly donations by standing order. Person had phoned because they'd just noticed their bank was giving us £400 a month instead of the £40 they had intended. This was after months of the payment being made incorrectly. They weren't cross or worried, just wanted it corrected. (Bank error, not the charity's, so they had to speak to their bank.) Not the same I know but on my lowly salary it felt shocking to me at the time. I would have noticed if it had been £40!
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“Another example is just being casual. Rich people tend to carry less on their shoulders, so they relax, and are usually pretty chill,” they explained. The author of the thread was quite surprised by some of the responses. “Some people told long stories about their experiences, which was wild to me.” Moreover, “There were also other things like 'Not noticing you haven’t been paid in 2 months' from u/Graphics_Nerd. This one was surprising because I would have never thought about that.” The Redditor was overwhelmed by the idea that “you could have so much money that you wouldn’t even notice that you weren’t gaining it from your job.”
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Going to space for like 2 minutes in a penis shaped rocket.
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And then suing NASA cause they chose the other guy's penis rocket to fund
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My wife worked as a pastry chef at a very fancy NYC restaurant when we were in our 20s and just started dating. On her day off, we went to dinner there with a friend. The three of us were treated like kings: the head chef came out to see us and chat, we were served 6 desserts, etc. An older guy eating in the corner just randomly sent over an expensive bottle of wine to us. “Because we looked like we were having such a good time”. I was amazed. Having the kind of money where you can just do random acts of kindness. I’ll never forget that.
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"Having the kind of money where you can just do random acts of kindness. I’ll never forget that." You do not need money to do random acts of kindness. The smallest thing can REALLY make a person's day. Compliment the cashier on.... pick something (jewelry, hair, eyes, mask, efficiency ), it is easy!
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You can't actually tell. We have millionaires walking in like they are homeless and people who spend more on fancy cars and designer goods but barely have $100k to their name. The truly wealthy don't wear brands. They are not there to advertise a luxury good. They give a CR*P ton to charity. More than I make in a year. Mostly for tax reasons but some are just that kind. We have a joke that the ones that are truly wealthy are the ones who are the kindest. They don't have to think about it and usually live low stress lives. They LIKE to take the time to get to know you and chit chat. The aholes are always the ones who don't have to work anymore but also don't have the money to not think about it. There are also quite a few that are sweet in this category but you ALWAYS find the aholes here. Something kind of interesting, I've never met an idiot rich person. Have definitely met some that didn't know what they were talking about or were misinformed but they have all been easily teachable. They don't forget things easily unless diminished capacity is an issue. Definitely have some offspring and spouses that were idiots. But the people who actually accumulated it all, pretty bright people. I have first hand experience with this. I actually work with wealthy people's bank accounts so they can't lie about what they have. Looking over transactions and stuff here's what I found.
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There's a great book named Class that has this same take on the out of sight wealthy. Worth reading.
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I was at a really posh restaurant (you know the kind where there are about 8 pieces of silverware?) we had saved up for months and a group of 8 of girls (nurses and CNA’s) went out. One of the recently divorced nurses was flirting with a guy at the next table. When we got our checks he leaned over and tossed his platinum card on the “I got this”. Like combined our tab was easily at least $1,000.
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Sounds like a successful flirt.. I really hope she find a new (good!) love in him.
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Not wearing a suit in a room full of people in suits.
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Why dress to impress if you're already there
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Perfect skin and good teeth. Rich people can afford to go to doctors and medical professionals for their appearance. I had a friend who worked for a skin doctor. He let her train on her friends with some new products and apparently, it's a thing where you go in on a regular basis and your skin smooths out, all the weird spots go away and you just glisten like Arwen or Galadriel. I did get to go in for one practice treatment and the other folks waiting in the room had amazing skin. Ever since then, I could spot moneyed women just by their complexions. Also, a good number of them.. you can spot if you know fabrics really well and how they are supposed to drape when well made.
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I know a thing or two about fabrics. It is true. Quality fabrics drape way better and nicer than cheap ones.
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They don't watch tv or anything like that. Lamborghini said they don't make advertisem*nts cause their customers aren't sitting around watching tv.
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Yeah, they don’t advertise, but you’ll see their cars in movies like “ Rainman”, “The Lovebug”, “Transformers: The Last Knight “ and you can be sure all the wannabes have watch the movie and want one.
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They will never complain about the cost of something but will nit-pik the quality of work to death.
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Kind of logical. If you pay, especially if you pay a lot, you certainly demand quality for that.
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Not thinking twice, when making plans, about whether you can afford it.
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They don't think of the price so they don't realize their friends might have to. Go on cruise with your buddies. Get to the first port and they want to do the $750 swim with dolphins excursion and two of you end up eating ramen for the next 3 months because you just maxed out the credit card that was supposed to cover the bills this month since you aren't getting paid this week.
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Keep a business afloat for two years during a pandemic with very little income coming in. I’m grateful for my boss and I hope his vintage Rolls Royce gets finished soon.
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Yeah, our boss finished his $1M spec house, bought a small family-run golf course and closed on the site where he’s building the new business and getting us out of the leased building. (Golf carts were HUGE during the pandemic)
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I once vaguely knew a family who were very rich. Even the kids had bodyguards (kidnap-ransom risk) When I stayed at their home for a weekend on a visit, the father casually mentioned not to push a certain button in the room, when I asked what it did out of interest he explained off-hand that it was a panic button to alert security and bodyguards in the grounds, like it was the most natural thing in the world. They were impeccably polite with me but I felt like Oliver Twist wandering into the wrong home.
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My father always told us that we were lucky to be poor because rich people have to be afraid of robberies and kidnapping.
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A friend once told me that her parents said if you had to take a loan for something you couldn't afford it. So they never had car loans or home loans.... Must be nice
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Once upon a time in America workers were paid a living wage, had benefits and were valued, homes were affordable as was transportation. Ronald Reagan effectively wiped that all off the map
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The sofa that is not in contact with a wall.
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Wow, I have two sofas not in contact with the walls. Woohoo, I'm rich! I'm rich... oh, hang on... no I'm not.
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Buying art. And not Instagram art, but gallery dealer art.
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Sometimes it's the same art but different price. I call it art with a capital F.
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I worked at a gas station in the 90s when Steve Wozniak would come in to get gas. He dressed in shorts a t-shirt and flip flops and drove a $120k car.
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Steve is a super chill down to earth guy, much saner than his counterparts
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Being completely clueless about how people who have to manage their money have to live.
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Could just be people who don't manage household finances too. My friend's dad couldn't even balance a check book when his wife died ( he was elderly and only had a 6th grade education and the wife handled the finances) so my friend had to go once a month to pay his bills and balance the checkbook. My dad also got an allowance of 100 bucks a week and the rest went in the pot for my mom to handle finances cause he didn't want to know. And some people are just terrible at math/ money management. In undergrad our history department chair was banned from writing checks by his wife cause he kept bouncing them. It is easier now with digital apps though
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Affording healthcare in America
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Or in Europe affording to go to real specialists that will take care of you and not the overcrowded poor public doctors who are overworked and underpaid and don't care anymore. My mum is getting blind and she needed to pay a private doctor (medium range not fancy private) because the public doctor had such a long waiting list that she would have been blind by then.
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SORT: PRICE: High to Low.
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This hits below the belt ngl. My price is always Low to High and I stop checking out the product when the price exceeds the highest amount for low.
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Not checking the price before making a purchase.
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I can do that in Goodwill.
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They have connections. These don't have to be crazy let me call the mayor type of things but if you say your looking for a job or something and they offer to put you in contact with people they probably are doing well
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That's the ugly secret they don't teach you in high school - its more important who you know than what you know. Both the owner of a garage and the guy running a hedge fund are more likely to hire a friend or someone they met at a tailgate party than a random person with a great resume because they've passed the eyeball test. That's also how the guy whose family makes enough money that he can do an unpaid internship goes to work at the hedge fund of a former fraternity brother and then gets hired over the guy who graduates top of their class at State U but had to work summers to make money instead.
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Minimalism by choice
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Some people just really hate clutter
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A likeable charmingness is another common trait. It may be that most of the wealthy people I know are business owners, and their good manners and conversation skills go a long way in their course of business. There could be a bit of a bias here just because I don’t really know any really wealthy people other than “small” business owners, but I have scarcely met a brash or rude person with real wealth so far as I know. Through my work as a lawyer, I have a number of wealthy clients. The most common trait between them is an easy-going demeanor along with a bit of a sense of entitlement, though not so much in a rude way. They are used to getting their way and are usually able to accomplish it through some combination of charm and money.
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Go hang out a high end horse farms if you want to see rude and entitled.
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Buying specialty equipment for a new sport or hobby. Poor people rent or buy used stuff for their hobbies, and if they do buy supplies get the low end version rather than the fancy stuff.
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investing in a sport/hobby you enjoy often is a way to SAVE money on rental equipment. I know the scuba pic above probably wasn't sanctioned by the submission author, but it's a great example: if I hadn't bought my BCD, weights, regs, tanks, suits and other ancillary equipment early on, I would have paid many times that amount by now renting the stuff.
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Not having a case on your phone.
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I don't have a phone case. Nothing I do would require one as its always either in my pocket or on a desk/ bed. Though I did buy a waterproof pouch for rafting
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I would add buying apartments for their kids so they don't need to worry. Giving somebody a house for free is definitely giving them a fortune since they will never pay a loan. My aunt is rich (family money she is hardworking and normal) and gave both my cousins a really nice apartment. I will never be able to own a home.
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I am a personal assistant to someone wealthy of the old wealth kind. I think the most important one is that they outsource tasks that give them time to do other things. A driver so you can do business while traveling, a PA (hi) to make sure your life is scheduled properly, maids to clean, a gardener, stylist for clothes shopping etc.
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Yep. My boss outsources EVERYTHING and spends all his time building and flying model aircraft (yes, really).
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When one's "estate" means your own house, outbuildings and grounds and doesn't refer to a square mile of hundreds of other people's houses. 😄
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I would add buying apartments for their kids so they don't need to worry. Giving somebody a house for free is definitely giving them a fortune since they will never pay a loan. My aunt is rich (family money she is hardworking and normal) and gave both my cousins a really nice apartment. I will never be able to own a home.
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I am a personal assistant to someone wealthy of the old wealth kind. I think the most important one is that they outsource tasks that give them time to do other things. A driver so you can do business while traveling, a PA (hi) to make sure your life is scheduled properly, maids to clean, a gardener, stylist for clothes shopping etc.
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Yep. My boss outsources EVERYTHING and spends all his time building and flying model aircraft (yes, really).
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When one's "estate" means your own house, outbuildings and grounds and doesn't refer to a square mile of hundreds of other people's houses. 😄
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